I never used to be and I guess the process will forever be ongoing. Thats what being a responsible Man means doesn’t it? It means that your journey is never over, and for some, it has not even begun.
So it became evident to me, if “ I want to become the best man I can be, I NEED other men in my life!
This statement is a long standing fact and through the years it has been forgotten. This is a reality that I, and many other men, are rediscovering.
For years I believed that i could do it alone and I didn’t need anyone else to develop my sense of identity, my self-worth and direction in life
I couldn’t have been more wrong!
An old saying goes...
“Women give birth to boys, but it takes a Man to make them into Men”
Now don’t get me wrong, I absolutely cherish the friendships I have with women… yet I’ve noticed they often offer me sympathy, where my male friends challenge me to fix my problems. My brothers are not afraid to call a spade a spade and true brothers will stand by you and guide you to restore what is broken, without condemnation.
In order to grow in maturity as Men, we need to be accompanied and mirrored by other Men who are on the same path or who have traveled a similar road to you. To be guided and pushed by these Men who understand the challenges and expectations that society has placed upon the Men of the 21st Century. As well as the anxiety and confusion that accompanies the ever changing requirements of Men today.
I realised that my lack of close male friends and mentors had left me unaware of how much of a boy I still was.
Unfulfilled. Directionless. Lonely. And yet, I now know…I’m not alone!
There is undoubtably a crisis of masculinity happening right now, it’s all around us.
When I reflect upon my 20’s I came to realise that “I Was So Busy Living the Life that Society Had Prescribed for Me, I Didn’t Even Realise that It Was at the Root of All of My Unhappiness with Myself ”
No matter what I had achieved, no matter how much money I had in my pocket, or the brand of beer I was drinking, I still wasn't happy. The environment that I grew up in was one of “Old School Australian Masculinity” I hated it and yet when it was time for me to go out into the real world, I found myself surrounded by this same toxicity. This Australian Masculinity I am referring to tells men that in time of hardship we must “suck it up” and push our emotions out of our heads. I was taught to toughen up and muddle through it, Men do it on our own.
Yet no matter what it looked like from the outside, I kept thinking:"Is this it?"I realised I had just bought into living the life that everyone else expected of me.And if I was really honest with myself, I didn't even know what I really wanted for myself. I became increasingly aware of that vague sense of there has to be something more than this.
You want to be part of a group of like-minded individuals who are working together to make the world a better place
You are ready to embark on an adventure, to confront chaos and to learn to grow as a human, with the companionship of other guys that feel the same way
You often feel that your life lacks direction and fulfilment and you want to find deeper passion and purpose
You want to hold yourself and others accountable to higher standards and work towards them together
It's for men who are tired of sacrificing large parts of who they are in their pursuit to live up to the perceived expectations of family and society.
It's for men who are doing well in some areas of life but feel deeply unsatisfied in other areas where they're playing small, playing safe and hiding from their true potential.
When you realise you're only living half of your potential and therefore only half of your life, the unfulfilled half of your potential will torment you. Carrying the burden of unfulfilled potential reduces you to a shadow of the man you deep inside know that you deserve to be.
He will see the pitfalls and risks which you haven't considered and help you plan the journey. He is your certainty and reality check, who knows the territory and can ensure you keep your bearings when the storm is raging.
But feel unable to take that next step, then our mentors are here to help you. ``Perhaps you have seen others get burned or fail in unexpected ways. Perhaps you have blocked yourself into a seemingly impassable situation and the complexity of the situation seems overwhelming. Whatever the reason, we are dedicated to ensuring your success.
Are your dreams worth investing in? Are you worth investing in? Do you actually want to reach out and make your mission happen? Or do you prefer to just keep them as fantasties that you can entertain yourself with while life happens around you?
Our mentoring team has a wealth of experience in a diverse range of sectors, roles and initiatives. Our approach is intensely personal and will depend on the chemistry of the relationship. Take a browse through, and get to know them - and see if there is a mentor you want to get to know more.
Firstly, working with a mentor is an investment of time and energy. Being a mentee is not a passive role sitting back expecting your mentor to give you all the missing pieces to your life puzzle. You need to come to your sessions with an intention. Our role is to create a space where we are fully present, safe to reflect honestly and critically, and to drop all charades and be real.
A safe space to be honest and share what is really going on.
We don’t know about you, but we’ve found it hard to find powerful and inspiring men whom we can trust and be honest and vulnerable. Your mentor will hold the space for you, in complete confidence, investigate what’s really going on, help make the subjective objective, and nudge you towards a more confident and empowering place.
Gain new Perspectives
Sometimes it feels like we’re the only one struggling and we forgot to recognize that others have experienced tough times as well. Sharing your struggle with your mentor will allow him to share his perspective based on his own experience and from working with other men.
Whether it’s a business challenge, a relationship challenge or about how you take care of yourself, knowing that others have been through similar challenges as you and gaining new perspectives can help you find the confidence and resolve to work it through.
Find new solutions
Sometimes when we’re stuck, it’s not working harder that moves us forward. We need to address the challenge with new thinking. Your mentor may have private and professional experiences solving similar challenges and can point you towards solutions you didn’t know was available or possible.
Find the right people
Sometimes you just need an introduction to the right person to move forward. Maybe you know who is but don’t have access, other times you may not even know the right person for the task exists. Your mentor’s network may hold the key to opening the door to the next opportunity.